Ready To Stop Being A LDS Single?
Now that you're getting older does it seem like everyone is talking about how
you need to stop being a
LDS single and start thinking
about getting married? You're not so sure. It is really that time already?
And you know that a lot of marriages don't make the distance and you want to do
what you can to make sure yours does.
Most couples want that delirious moment when one of them – still generally the
man – makes a romantic proposal. However, before that moment comes a couple
should already have had deep discussions about important matters which will be
central to their life together. After that moment it may also be useful to have
premarital counseling.
Many people think of marriage as a
romantic event and focus a lot of attention on the wedding. But of course,
the wedding is only the beginning of spending your life together. Many wise
couples now choose to have counseling before they formally commit to each other
so that any potential differences can be raised and dealt with beforehand. There
are many issues which could potentially cause
unhappiness in a marriage - money, beliefs, parenting, political views - and
they need to be openly discussed in a calm way before they arise rather than
uncovered in the heat of an argument.
Sometimes it helps to take a step away and reflect on your
relationship in order to figure out exactly where it is going. Don't think
that you are being disloyal by taking time to reflect on whether your current
partner is the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with. Rather
think of it as being healthy and mature approach. The last thing you want to do
is launch into a situation that will eventually lead to disappointment.
When thinking about whether you are ready to get married step aside for a moment
from that special beat your heart takes every time you see him or her. Think
instead of the
emotional support you receive from your might be mate. Consider too whether
your beliefs on bedrock issues coincide.
Marriage is about more than a beautiful face or a sexy body. When it comes
time to decide if your mutual children are going to public school or private
religious school you might be surprised at how big an argument opposing thoughts
can engender.
Don't wait until your partner
asks you to marry them before you think about whether they are the person
you want to spend the rest of your life with. Think about it now and start
talking to them about the bigger life issues to see what their views are.
Similarly don't ask your partner to
marry you just because others are pressuring you to do so. There is no magic
age that guarantees you a happy and enduring marriage. Love is important in any
marriage but for the union to last, there must also be a healthy dose of respect
and trust.
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